Monday, January 28, 2013

Who are we, you ask?

Well, hello again! Glad you've come back. I guess now is a great moment to introduce ourselves.

I am embarking on this journey with my love, my wife, my partner of eight years. I'll call her A, even though I doubt that anyone that knows us will find this blog. She is my favorite person in the world. She is the person I can go to and look to for support, for a laugh, for a shoulder to cry on, and for a kick in the butt when I feel like the world hates me. We met over eight years ago, back in the prehistoric times when meeting someone online in a chat room was creepy. It was fate for us to meet, and I fell instantly. There was something different about her, and our connection was undeniable. We've been inseparable since then.

We both come from pretty conservative, Catholic, Mexican families. Her family is huge, with lots of people everywhere, and little to no privacy. I love them though, and after they realized I wasn't going anywhere, they embraced me and welcomed me. My family is a bit smaller. We are close, and far at the same time. My family was also apprehensive of my relationship with A, but after seeing how amazing she is, they have come to love her almost as much as I do.

Its not a fairy tale. We have learned throughout the years, that relationships are hard work. Its a lot of compromises, a lot of picking and choosing your battles, and alot of self reflection. We have grown alot. We moved in together months after meeting, living off of ramen noodles, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and puppy love. Three years ago, we realized that we had changed. Our relationship went through a month that was touch and go, but our love was stronger than either of us even realized and we bounced back stronger and closer than ever.

We have now come to the point in our lives, when (this is going to be super cheesy, so brace yourself) our love for each other is so much and so overflowing that we need another person to pick up the slack. A little one to make us complete. We're ready.

And in more relevant PB (pre baby) news:
I got my period! This might be the last period that I "want" :) Hopefully. So here's where we are now:

I have an appointment on Wednesday. I will be going in for and ultrasound, FDA with CMV, and a counsil with fragile X testing. If you are lost in the doctor jargon, we are in the boat together.

 I have to be honest, speaking to the doctor and the nurse is a little intimidating. Don't get me wrong, they are very nice and have not made me feel uncomfortable at all. That was actually one of our concerns being a lesbian couple. We were bracing ourselves for a wierd look, or a dismissing comment, but lucky for us none of that happened.

I will keep yall posted on how everything goes on Wednesday. Wish me luck! :)

Saturday, January 26, 2013

In the beginning...

So it begins. Let me introduce myself. I'm G and my wife's name is A. We have been together for eight years. It'll be officially eight in a couple of weeks. Time has really flown by.

She comes from a large boisterous family and I come from a small tight knit one. We have always known we wanted a family of our own, but we would always find a reason to wait. We were too young, financially unstable, having too much fun, or just plain not ready... I turned 27 last month and on my birthday she said she was ready. In that instant I knew I was too. Inside of me grew a hope that we could soon become a little family. That our love, the love that had gone through its highs and lows, would bear the fruit of a little person.

Soon, I made an appointment with a fertility clinic. I was diagnosed with pcos last April and we want to be as prepared as possible. Our first appointment went wonderfully. Better than expected actually. Met our doctor, Dr. G. He's one of the leading doctors in the fertility field. He was very understanding and explained the whole process very in depth. Even the timeframe was shorter than we expected.

Now, I'm feeling a bit nervous. I have to wait until my January period arrives so I can get started with the testing process. Much to my annoyance, my period is two weeks late. I'm trying not to get too stressed about it, but it's hard not to wonder what's all going on in my nether regions. I don't want my ovaries thinking this is a vacation they can take anytime they want. I need them to make big healthy eggs so our insem goes smoothly and hopefully we can have good news on our first try. The waiting game is the hardest thing for me since I am a control freak and patience is not my best quality.

Financially, this was a huge eye opener. After looking online at possible sperm banks and possible donors, we realized that a huge chunk of our money will go into buying, storing, and shipping the "stuff" as we call it. We are very blessed that our insurance covers all the testing and ultrasounds.

To you, reader, thank you for joining our journey and we ask that you send us positive baby vibes. We can use all the positive energy we can get :)